Oh where do I even begin?? I decided to write this blog since I’ve had the joy of online dating and meeting these men…or shall I say boys. Its so unbelievable what I have come across, how does a human act like this…and some even have daughters! To me that would make a guy treat a woman with a little more respect…but NOPE!! So let dive right in…and this one is for the guys! I’m hoping they will read this and maybe learn a thing or two about women 🙂
Don’t men realize they will get sooooo much if they just act like a common human, with common curtsy, and respect. That us women are about how you make us feel. If you are attentive, with good morning text, just saying hi call’s or text, asking how our day was and actually listening. Making us feel like a priority not a “have to so I can get laid” girl. Simple gestures like placing your hand on the small of our back, making eye contact when we speak, opening doors (yes men its ok, some of us women still like chivalry) This day in age with all the technology there’s no reason to not hear from someone. except that person just really doesn’t like you. Now I’m not talking during the times people work, but lets get real if you really like someone you men will find what ever time to contact them, keep them interested, let them know you want them and not just sexually.
Here’s where online dating has it issues, you see a guy…hmmm sees cute from his pictures, I like his bio and he wrote something…ok I’ll swipe…oh look we match! Cool…message Hello…two things happen 1. NOTHING…whats the point of matching if you aren’t going to reply. 2. They message back, now here’s where it gets good. Message will go back and forth then after about 5 to 10 messages back and forth, either the conversation gets boring or they send a dick pic!! GUYS GUYS GUYS…if you can’t hold a conversation via messenger/text how are you going to be able to speak in person? and STOP SENDING UNINVITED DICK PICTURES…it makes you look like a asshole. We don’t want them…sure maybe down the line when some sort of relationship has been established, but not when we don’t even know you…cuz let me tell you I stopped talking to guys because they sent it and honestly it wasn’t because I got the picture but it was because of the size! Yep I said it…and I don’t care size does matter. And let me tell you us women do talk.
Lets get to the double standard of dating…Why is it ok for men to “look” and decide but not ok for a woman? What I mean by this is men look to see if they are attracted to a woman and then pursue her…when a woman does it she’s shallow (according to men well and some women) Now I’m not putting everyone in this category because we are all attracted to our own individual taste but don’t go and sit there and say looks don’t matter..BULLSHIT!!! Because where it isn’t the deciding factor, there had to have been something attractive visually for you to want to pursue further in getting to know the person. Now once that happens then their personality and traits will either rocket them to extreme hotness or make them complete douches. Men something you also need to know…how you take care of yourself DOES MATTER, from your skin, hair, nails…personally I don’t want you to be “prettier” than me but dear God have some respect for yourself and your appearance. Take a look in the mirror. And I’m not talking just physically…I don’t expect a perfect body, but I’m also am not attracted to overweight men, some women are and I’m sure they will message you…but not me. Don’t get mad at me if your pictures are all jacked up and I choose not to reply to your message. Although I do think I may become brutally honest…think I may just try to save some of these men from themselves. I have been called shallow, and “to bad I don’t look with my heart instead of my eyes”, that I’m angry and bitter and a pessimist. Usually I ignore the messages…but when the same guy messages me over three times I finally say something…even to the point where I have had to block some men. Looks it just as important to women as it is to men, we all have our own taste, but something physically has to create a spark of interest. Men are you not getting attention, then time to change things up. That’s not to say I haven’t met some great guys…but there just wasn’t anything there that made me want to keep seeing them…aka they became “the friend zone”
Now lets talk about these online profiles LMAO…oh and some of them do! Some also make me scratch my head wondering what the hell these men are thinking! If you have a profile with no picture…then there isn’t a chance in hell. If you have a profile with 1 or 2 almost professional pictures…you’re probably fake. But what gets me is men who have pictures up of them with another guy that’s better looking LOL…I mean can I message you and ask who the guy is on the right? Stop with all the “action” pictures…ok we get it you like to hike and skydive…but I can’t see your face in the pictures. And if you have kids great, mention them in your bio but why is every picture with your kids? If you don’t have kids stop using other peoples kids in your pictures, it could potentially scare off the girl of your dreams! And last…why are you putting pictures up with you hanging all over scantily clad women, or any woman…except maybe your mother? That right there just shows you are a douche!!
Don’t sit there and say you are looking for a relationship when truly you are only looking for a friend with benefits…and you know what that’s ok, there are women out there who that’s all they want…I was that girl at one point. But when I say “I’m not looking for a FWB, that I’m ready to find someone to be in a relationship with” don’t fucking lie to me and tell me the same thing, because I can smell bullshit!! If you truly meant it then I would hear from you more then every 24-48 hours. You would ask me how my day is, ask me on dates, not just ask me “what color of underwear I’m wearing” or “what my favorite sexual position is”. I can read between the lines, and I may just play along for a little while, but when its all said and done you’re ass will be ghosted!! If a man truly wants me, and is interested in me there is nothing stopping him from reaching out and letting me know. Its takes two seconds to send a text. No excuses not to hear from someone these days.
Guys, believe it our not we are really simple creatures…tell us we are beautiful and feed us tacos!! Haa Haa All kidding aside, we are wanting a man who treats us with respect! Simple. I mentioned it earlier that you would think men with daughters would know how to teat a woman…since well he is raising one…I was shocked at how untrue that is. On the that note, I wont completely forget to blame the women…there are bad women out there and its giving us good women a bad name! Women have some self respect please!!
So lets break this down..
- We are not all interested in Dick Pics
- Have decent pictures, be proud of who you are
- Say more than one word answers
- Treat us with respect…chivalry isn’t dead
- Don’t expect us to have a perfect body if you don’t
- Stop lying about all the adrenaline activities you do, lets get real we all like the couch and tv
- Clean yourself up, have some self respect and worth.
- Pay attention to what you are saying, would you want someone saying that to your daughter or sister?
- Women like to be pursued!! Simple…its human nature, Men hunt = Men pursue
- Tell the truth, because its all going to come out eventually.
So as crazy as this online dating is I will continue, will I meet the man of my dreams, who knows…what I do know is I get a good laugh every couple days!! Just need to get though all those frogs before I find my prince. I have faith, and I have hope!